We are living in 21st century now....but how many of us realise this??
Many people say these days that whats the difference between a boy and a girl....a man and a woman........But majority of those who says these things don't even believe it...They say these just to show that they are moving ahead with time.....and mind it its not the people of older generation i am talking about, its quite common in the people of our generation also....
Since my childhood I have found people around me saying that learn or study how much ever you want but at the end of the day you have to make round chappatis only as your mother does..In childhood as all other children I used to hear it and forget it as soon as I was with my friends or my books..It never meant anything for me...But as I reached my adolocence and then hearing these things made a mark on my mind...
Luckily for me my parents never said this to me..My dad always wanted me to do something in my life, he wanted me to be independent. Same was the case with my mother, she wanted the same as my dad, or probably more than him. She always used to say that she has not utilised her education by just sitting at home as a homemaker, the refined version of the word HouseWife..I can never say that being a housewife she hasn't done anything in her life..She is the stepping stone for the success of our family in whatever field it might be, but she might also had some dreams which were not fulfilled..She always wanted to become a lawyer but was not allowed by her family to go to another city for education..Then she thought of becoming a teacher but her father didn't allowed her and after her marriage my father didn't liked the idea much as his was a joint family and he just was not able to take such decisions on his own..I think this is one reason that both of them encouraged me to have a good career...my mother as she wanted me to fulfill my dreasm and my father as he has seen my mother with her dreams unfulfilled..
But how many girls in India get such opportunities even now, in 2008...
Even if we get opportunities to have a career of our own the obstacles and challenges are enough to shake us.....
What happens when a girl in India is about to turn 23-24 years old, the first thing everyone will ask is that when are you getting married???The reply comes once I have a job and a career settled and the reaction is why so???If the girl fights and gets a job, as soon as she gets it again the same question....why does never one asks a boy once he gets a job when will he marry???? People say yoy have got a job, now get settled properly for 2-3 years atleast and then start thinking about marriage.........Why does this happen????
Answer is simple because still our society has not yet accepted that there is no difference between a boy and a girl...Still the bread earner for the family is just considered to be the man and the woman's earning is still least important...Why does everyone think that a job or a career is just for earning money and not for passion or for the fulfillment of the dreams....
When the girl is married why is she only expected to think about the family, house, food and children....Aren't these also the responsibility of the man???They are told that do your job but it should not distrupt the daily chore of household, why the man never told this???He has the privilege to think about his career and how to grow it then why not the woman has same privileges???How many men can accept the success of their spouse, especially iof they are in same profession??
This is not only what a woman faces..this was just the personal aspect of her life, there are challenges for her in her career also.I am not talking about the challenges in her work, but the problems she faces for being a woman. How many men in our society are comfortable working under a woman boss???How many men can accept the success of their feamle colleagues whole- heartedly??
These are just few of the hundreds questions that come in my mind.....and answers to these I am still searching....
Life is not easy for a woman where she is only expected to maintain a balance between her career and her family..even if she has to sacrifice her dreams, even if she had to make hundreds of compromises and adjustments....its only her DUTY.............
I just hope one day will come when things will be different.......
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